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We are all poets May 1, 2013

Filed under: Kid's Corner,Love — rgovani @ 7:52 pm
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A collection of poems for my son, my treasure, Khalil.


little golden boy, today you deserve a high 5
your love keeps me fully alive
each day you bring joy and thrive
the two of us just jive
like happy bees in a hive
into your big brown eyes I love to dive
happy happy birthday my precious boy of five

my dear son turning the big four
you are definitely not a bore
but your more, more, more
often tempts me to walk out the door
and make weird noises like a lion’s roar
leaving my body achy and sore (no more jaur!)
but it’s you the one that i madly cherish and adore
with you holding my hand i am forever rich, never poor
i love you infinitely from my deepest core

dream no little dreams, my dinosaur
to khalil-happyhappyfour!


Ode to Mila

Filed under: Kid's Corner,Love — rgovani @ 6:18 pm


my dear mila, as you turn three
my wish for you is to be meltdown free
your heart full of hope and glee
awe and beauty around you to see
although you’re no longer so wee
my baby you will always be
love, daddy, bha and me

just the other day you were pinky and new
a fresh member in the former ARK crew
now you have arrived at the fun age of terrific 2
the time has come for you to go into the loo
to do your business; pee and poo
stay sweet and saucy, my little boo
brilliant and fearless, our family glue
you offer all of us a refreshing world view
as you turn the enchanting two
my precious jewel, know that we infinitely love you


Stay A Lover of Little Things

Filed under: Daydreaming — rgovani @ 2:42 pm

I started out my day reading this joyful post. Read it and be inspired too.

No matter what big cities you go off to and big opportunities you are graced with, always take time to acknowledge the little things.Never give up on the things that make you smile, because smiling is one of the most important things we can do in this world.

Find time to just wander. With No Direction. No Plan. No Time Restrictions.

Look for beauty everywhere you go. The ladybugs on the windowsill. The sunflowers in the backyard. The skyscrapers in a new city. The faces of strangers and family alike.

Form family in every place. Form family by reaching out a hand to people who need to hold one, calling someone to brighten their day, giving up your time for others with no exasperation of ever needing to have those minutes repaid.

Leap. Leap High. Leap Far. Leap when you see the landing point. Leap when you see nothing but darkness.

It’s worth repetition: Stay a lover of little things. Spider Webs. Children Laughing. Band Aids. Light Weight Sneakers. Coins. Cheetos.

Refuse to keep your feelings bottled up: cry, scream, yell, stomp your feet, spit. Do whatever it takes to feel outside of your own mind.

Go to concerts. Dance on stage. Be the best damn tambourine player you can be. Have a crush on the lead singer.

Be unafraid of your heart: Whatever and whoever makes it beat. You could keep it sheltered forever if you please, but hearts become more versatile the more we use them. Better that we risk them breaking through good use rather than breaking them from never using them at all.

Wake up every day with the intention of painting something beautiful. Some days, you won’t feel like you have all the right colors. These days, borrow colors from others.

Carry a kazoo wherever you go. You will continually stumble across people who are having a birthday and are in need of a good song.

Aspire to be something wonderful. Something Remarkable. Every Single Day.

Don’t pay too much attention to all of the hubbub about ultraviolet rays. The sun is far too glorious to not let it kiss your face and plant freckles on your shoulders sometimes.

Drop everything. Absolutely everything. For a good friend in need.

Nothing in this world stops you from being an artist, a dancer, the best writer this world has ever seen. If anyone stops you, it is only yourself.

Counting Blessings. Don’t count calories too crazily. Count kisses (especially the forehead ones). Never ever worry about counting friends. Don’t count money before you have it.

Ask outlandish questions.You can tell a lot about a person by asking the question, “If you had one night to be any performer on stage, who would it be?”

Be good to people but don’t give them everything or every part of you. Especially if there is evidence that they may tamper with your heart.

Take long walks on the beach.

Walk sometimes instead of drive.

One last thing on walking, take time every day to walk outside of yourself. You will quickly find that the world does not revolve around you, and sorry to say, it never did.

And remember: Stay a lover of little things no matter how big your dreams may be. Stamps. Sonnets. Hot Chocolate. Dessert. Songs that read your soul. Tears of Joy. Tears, in general.

Home is not so much a noun as it is a cross between an adjective and a verb. Be home to someone. Hold close to those who feel like home.

Add something sequined, silver, or red to any outfit you wear out for a night. A silver bangle never fails, and patent red pumps are unstoppable at any age.

Write poems. Without rhyming or worry about iambic pentameter. Without judging them. Just write poems because they are groovy and we are all poets.

Make pet names with every letter of the alphabet. Leave no B, G, or E unused.

Start the morning quietly. When you step outside or get stuck in your dose of morning traffic, you will have wished you had that solitude.

Make your efforts big but remain little. No one likes a big head.

When you feel a pulling in your heart or a weight on your chest, don’t push off the feeling. Let it flood you, push you around, challenge you. Under pressure, diamonds are made. Welcome darkness and welcome change.

Never stop asking yourself, “What do I want to be when I grow up?”
Not everyone in life is going to care about you, your favorite breakfast foods, or your pet peeves. Don’t even try to make them. Just appreciate those who come into your life and do care.

Have coffee or tea in the morning. Or just something warm. Feel the warmth on your hands. Let it spread to your soul.

Don’t expect the world to understand all that you attempt to do. Your dreams will only fly if you first give them wings. And another thing, let the world think you are crazy. Crazy is good.

And never forget: Stay a lover of little things, above all else. Prayers. Pearls. Compliments. Movie Nights. Letters from Home…Home.

And those who believed in you first.

–by Hannah Brencher, Original Story, May 01, 2013



50 Ways Ordinary People Reached World-Class (Robin Sharma) April 19, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — rgovani @ 11:33 am

Now THIS is a list:

  1. Know what you want. Clarity is power. And vague goals promote vague results.
  2. Remember that every problem has a solution. Maybe you just can’t see it. Yet.
  3. In this Age of Dramatic Distraction, the performer who focuses the best wins the most.
  4. Before someone will help you, you need to help them.
  5. Become the most passionate person you know. It’ll be contagious.
  6. Know more about your craft/the work you do than anyone who has ever done the work you do…in the history of the world.
  7. Join The 5 am Club. Your most valuable hours are 5am-8am. They have the least interruptions.
  8. Devote yourself to learning something new about your field of mastery every day. Success belongs to the relentless learners. Because as you know more, you can achieve more.
  9. Remember that when you transform your fitness, you’ll transform your business.
  10. Don’t check your mobile when you’re meeting with another person. It’s rude. And rude people don’t reach world-class.
  11. Every time you do what scares you, you take back the power that you gave to the thing that scared you. And so you become more powerful.
  12. A problem is only a problem if you make the choice to see it as a problem.
  13. Stop being a victim. Your business and personal life was made by you. No one else is responsible. To make it better, make better choices. And new decisions.
  14. You can lead without a title. Don’t wait to get a position to stand for excellence, peak quality and overdelivery on every expectation.
  15. Find your own style. Be an original. Every superstar differentiated themselves from The Herd. And marched to their own drumbeat.
  16. Understand that when you play small with your success, you betray your potential. And the birthright you were born under.
  17. Eat less food and you’ll get more done.
  18. As you become more successful, stay really really hungry. Nothing fails like success. Because when you’re successful, it’s easy to stop outlearning+outOverDelivering+outthinking and outexecuting everyone around you. (Success is Beautiful. And dangerous).
  19. If you’re not overprepared, you’re underprepared.
  20. The only level of great manners to play at is “Exceedingly Polite”. In our world, this alone will make you a standout. And differentiate you in your marketplace.
  21. Remember that the moment you think you’re a Master, you lose your Mastery. And the minute you think you know everything, you know nothing.
  22. To double your results, double your level of execution.
  23. Invest in your personal and pro development. All superstars do.
  24. You don’t get lucky. You create lucky.
  25. When you push through a difficult project, you don’t get to the other side. You reach The Next Level.
  26. Smile. And remember to inform your face.
  27. Spend time in solitude every day. Your best ideas live there.
  28. Debrief on how you lived out your day every night in a journal. This will not only record your personal history, it will make you uber-clear on what you’re doing right and what needs to be improved.
  29. If you’re not being criticized a lot, you’re not doing very much. Ridicule is the price of ambition.
  30. Develop a monomaniacal focus on just a few things. The secret to productivity is simplicity.
  31. To get the results very few people have, be strong enough to do what very few people are willing to do.
  32. Rest. Recover. It’ll make you stronger.
  33. Buy a smaller TV and build a larger library.
  34. Remember that the bigger the goal, the stronger a person you must become to achieve that goal. So goal-achieving is a superb practice for character-building.
  35. Food fuels your body. Learning feeds your mind.
  36. Don’t ask for respect. Earn it.
  37. Finish what you start. And always end strong.
  38. Breathe.
  39. In business, don’t play to survive. Play to win.
  40. Protect your good name. It’s your best asset.
  41. Remember that words have power. Use the language of leadership versus the vocabulary of a victim.
  42. Give more than you take. The marketplace rewards generosity.
  43. Know that if it’s not messy, you’re not making progress.
  44. Be a hero to a kid.
  45. In business, aim for iconic. Go for legendary. Make history by how awesome you are at what you do.
  46. Please don’t confuse activity with productivity. Many many people are simply busy being busy.
  47. Your doubts are liars. Your fears are traitors. Stop buying the goods they are attempting to sell you.
  48. The best anti-aging remedy in the world is working really hard.
  49. World-Class performers have no plan B. Failure just isn’t an option.
  50. You have the power to change the world—one brave act and one person at a time. Please use it.

My first post in a very very long time… March 19, 2013

Filed under: Daydreaming — rgovani @ 4:50 pm

I’ve had my ups and downs. Highs and lows and I can definitely attest that this year, today, this moment,  is my time. I am on the up-swing. I feel energetic and hopeful. Optimistic and excited about the future.

Rewind a year ago, and I was a complete mess. Things had taken a sudden downward  and depressing spiral. So, the thing that happens to me when I am at my very best is this…I start to write, dream, set goals, sign up for classes, make vacation plans. In short, I make lists. Lots of them. I live with the philosophy that if I write it down, it will get done. This method of motivation has proven successful to me over the years. I have learned through professional help how to make my lists more efficient and how to prioritize my list (use an A, B, C, D rating-not everything can be A and a lot of the time the things on your D list just need to be removed as they are not important enough).

So, here my beloved readers (are they any of you out there?) is my list of goals for 2013. Many of them are already in progress. This week marks Navroz, my new year, which is observed on the first day of Spring. This day represents renewal, rebirth and new beginnings. So I find it fitting to post my new year’s goals here:

-learn to swim (I am ready to start this lifelong goal in July. It’s a must have life-skill for all parents but especially me who has young kids and loves to travel. Besides, I am a Pisces so it’s in my DNA.)

-do a headstand (this is relatively new goal inspired by a recent hot Vinyasa yoga class. If not this year, in 2014 I am hoping to complete this goal.)

-pursue new opportunities (It’s a totally wide and open statement but I really feel like it’s my year for some big changes. I will keep you all posted.)

-Start to write my children’s book  (I have a great title and concept which I can’t share right now but need more time with the process. I am hoping to start this project in the summer/fall.)

-visit PEI or Halifax + San Fran (plans are already in motion for these trips that I have been dreaming about for a long time. So excited to check these off my bucket list!)

-continue hot yoga once a week (I have been practicing since October with my hot girlfriends. It’s not something I thought I would like or embrace and I have to admit, I do feel like leaving after the first 10 minutes but then I stick around and relish in it. It makes me feel stronger physically and emotionally and is a great once a week healer.)

-take a Bollywood Zumba class (We have an instructor, a lot of interested participants and we are just looking for space. Doesn’t this sound super fun?)

-learn to cook 3 things well (ahem. this has been on my list year after year. Will this be THE year for finally embracing and liking cooking? Only time will tell.)

-Go to Columbia U  (I have signed up and registered.  All smiles!)

-take a course at Harvard (let’s see if this dream comes true too)

-take a photoshop course (I am going next week to hone up my skills)

-enhance my financial literacy (I feel comfortable in most conversations with all kinds of people. I know a little about a lot of different subject areas to get by on but I really don’t know how to talk about money that well. I also can’t talk hair-long bangs, layering techniques). I just don’t have the lingo down yet.

-lose 15-20 pounds (this is without doubt, the toughest thing on my list to check off. work is in progress, progress is slow but steady and I need to remain on track. Wish me luck!)

-go to more live musical shows (I wanna scream and shout and let it all out. Tonight, I am going to the Rihanna concert and hoping that this year is full of concert opportunities)

You know the song, right? She’s just a girl…SHE’S ON FIRE. That’s me.  rainbowphoto


Time to e-read April 28, 2011

Filed under: Reading — rgovani @ 7:48 pm

I am a book lover. I love the smell, feel, taste (no– not taste silly!) of books. My dream is to have wall to wall bookshelves with a stylish ladder. I dream of books. I live for books. When my brother and I were little we nothing to do so we read every single book in our school library. Seriously.

I have been resistent to e-readers for sometime but ironically enough I own two. When the first edition of the Kobo was released my brother was generous enough to give me his. He happily passed it to me because he had a newly aquired Ipad in his hands. I didn’t touch it. I had too many books to go through first so put Kobo1 on hold. In January, my girlfriends and I went to the Marliyn Denis show and lo and behold one the segments was on the different e-readers on the market. I could smell the giveaway in the air. Soon after my intitution and TV savviness was proven right as we were all rewarded with a Kobo e-reader. I was delighted and excited with K2. Sadly enough, it has been sitting in its’ box for the last few months but I finally pulled it out yesterday. The time has come. I will never give up real books but there is so much material out there that I like to read but really don’t need to keep. It’s a great commuting tool for me to keep in my purse. It’s great for bigger trips too on the plane and with the kids. It’s light and comes preloaded with 100 classics. So, I am taking the brave step today, figuring out my new reading toy and hopefully, will be e-reading tomorrow on the GO train.

As for some of my 2011 reads I have had a few great ones in a row:
The Lucky Sperm Club by Rebecca Eckler Pure silly entertainment. Right book at the right time. Dare I admit, Eckler’s writing has gotten better over the years.

Midnight at the Dragon Cafe by Judy Fong I found this book on the street. My friend Anne Marie who works for TPL was giving copies away as part of the One Book Community Read 2011 campaign. Lucky me. Raw. Haunting in some ways.

Still Alice by Lisa Genova I’ve started this book twice before but couldn’t find it until recently. It was tucked under one my kid’s stroller. I was so happy to reunite with it and finish it. Worth all the praise. Intelligent. Emotional. Everyone needs to read this book.

On the outside looking Indian by Rupinder Gill Was so excited to read this. It started out so funny and entertaining and I could totally relate but I tired of it quickly. It would have been better as a long essay as opposed to a book. Found it repetitive and flat towards the end. It’s too long to sustain its’ initial humour. Also, I think the author was a little too tough on her parents. It’s not an Indian thing as well but more of a shared immigrant thing…

Can’t wait for more books-real and e-in 2011.


Someone else’s how-to-parent lessons in 25 simple steps

Filed under: Kid's Corner — rgovani @ 7:19 pm

Thought this was extra special. Taken from Jen from Supersisters at PBS Parents

1. Silly string really is worth the unjustifiable purchase when you’re being lobbied hard in the store.

2. Nothing good can come from leaving the cake batter unattended, even for one minute.

3. Your example will be followed faster than your rules.

4. If you always say yes, it’s probably time to say no.

5. If you always lean towards no, say yes.

6. Your intuition is a better guide than everyone else’s opinion of how you should do it.

7. There’s nothing like dancing in the living room to get everybody in a better mood.

8. Kids never stop needing you at bedtime, and it’s never about the extra glass of water.

9. No matter what they say or how they act, your kids really know you care.

10. There’s no such thing as too much time playing outside.

11. Regular bathing is way overrated.

12. Regular haircuts, however, do something mysteriously good for self-esteem and sometimes self-control.

13. Playing together is just as important as eating right and going to bed on time.

14. Your kids are on your side, willing to comply, more than you know.

15. Being tough is important, but you have to know how and when.

16. Mistakes will be forgiven.

17. Your presence is more important than any opportunity you could provide.

18. Kids aren’t the only ones with too much screen time.

19. How you handle your own relationship troubles will teach your kids how to handle theirs.

20. No one is too old to be snuggled.

21. Listening is the most powerful way to get through to your kids, no matter what’s going on.

22. If you buy the big thing of bubble stuff, it will get spilled in the first five minutes.

23. Without a doubt, a big cardboard box is the best gift they’ll ever get, no matter what the age.

24. Telling stories about yourself at their same ages is an endless source of delight, especially if you tell the ones where you got it all wrong trying to get it all right.

25. Committing to your own personal growth and well-being reassures kids and creates a safe space for them to tackle their own challenges, without worrying about yours.